The Drama Triangle

The triangle

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Why We Have The Ten Rules

So for the last week I’ve been trying to narrow my focus for the “Ten Rules For Your Home” material.  I received a few questions from people asking how to get started in coming up with rules.  The main concerns were, “How do you keep the leadership role of the father in the home when the teenager is coming up with the rules?” Another question was, “Why do you do time out when it does not seem like it is working?”

            These are great questions.  When I enter the picture as a counselor, things have usually gotten to the point where the family needs immediate help.  They can’t wait three months to see improved behaviors in their child.  Usually the school is giving ultimatums to the family about their child’s behavior too.  A comforting word from an overly optimistic counselor will not get the school to stop sending home letters about their kid’s bad behavior.  There needs to be some sort of plan to get everyone in the child’s life on the same page.  This is why I needed something adaptable to the most difficult family situations.  Families with less intense issues can always scale back the plan if it is too much.

            Working with teenagers can be very frustrating at times.  Having the ability to manipulate concepts is a new skill for them.  They are sometimes overwhelmed by the new information that they are now capable of understanding, but they do not have all the right places in their mind to store the information from new processing abilities.

The Christian Family Help Blog

This is going to be a blog focused on bringing relevant help to families.  It will be written from a perspective that incorporates principles from the Bible.  We hope that your family will find answers to your questions here.  We will address many different topics ranging from behavior issues, communication improvement and money management.  We also hope to talk about our experiences with family relevant items that you may need help with.  For instance, one of the most important aspects of family life is the memories we make with our children.  I spent ten years as a professional photographer, and sold cameras for three years. You may want to learn more about what kinds of camera investments make more sense than others.  I used to have this type of conversation twenty times a day when I sold cameras.  I was a teaching type of salesman by nature.  I loved to talk about what type of camera makes the most sense for a given situation.  I would like to review photography techniques and wise purchases for photography.  I am a mental health counselor now.  My wife Lauren is a speech therapist.  We have a desire to bring you ideas to try at home in order to improve your life at home.  We use just a few techniques in our own home that dramatically reduce the challenges that arise concerning discipline, communication and money.  We hope to be able to walk along side you (virtually anyways) as you minister to your family.